I love being in love … it’s just the breakups that bite. They’re messy and distasteful and depressing. Yet despite the pain and anger, I almost always wind up obsessing about ways to get the ex back. Sound familiar?
Over the years I’ve shed countless tears, consumed untold pints of Ben & Jerry’s, and bored too many of my close friends to tears of their own. But along the way, despite my cluelessness, I learned a few things about relationships. I’m no expert … just a gal with more first-hand experience with breakups than she cares to admit.
Looking back, one thing is really clear: I wasn’t prepared to handle a relationship breakup, much less to get the ex back. At first, the best I could do was to take my cue from my unlucky-at-love friends and that didn’t work very well. No matter how cool or popular, they were just as clueless as I was about how to get a ex back. Small consolation.
I wish I could say I saw the light early on. But no. I just kept following my emotions into, and out of, romantic relationships. Unfortunately, doing “what comes naturally” can often be the kiss of death when we’re trying to get the ex back. It took me the longest time to realize that being able to get the ex back is like being able to play the piano. It’s something that, with proper guidance, can be learned – it’s something that has techniques and methods.
You can pick up some really great tips reading articles and blogs but, unfortunately, that’s really not enough. Or, at least, it wasn’t for me. Most of those just give you a piece of the puzzle but to get the ex back, you need a plan … a strategy.


