I got an email today from a male reader of ToGetExBack.com offering his take on relationships and breakups. Here’s what Neal has to say about the best way to avoid having to get an ex back.
Being A Good Girlfriend – Stop Driving Him Away
Isn’t it amusing what women wonder about? I mean, if you’re pondering on the ways of being a good girlfriend, it could mean something isn’t right in your relationship. Or maybe it’s already way past that: You thought things were fine, but you’ve just been dumped.
Why all of the famous love stories (Cinderella, Sleeping Beauty, Pretty Lady, just to name a few) do it, ending when the couple gets together. Hollywood doesn’t hang around for the tough parts: When she finds he snores all night and throws his stinky socks in the floor instead of in the laundry hamper. When he learns she has a nasty temper lurking beneath her beautiful exterior. Who would have thought such a hot number could be such a demanding shrew?
So what have you got to do to be a really cool girlfriend? Here’s just a few really good tips to keep from getting dumped:
–Accept your man for exactly who he is. Just way too many gals get involved with “Mr. OK Till I Remade Him Into Mr. Right.” Your dude does not need, or want, to be your pet project but deserves someone who’ll take him for who he is at this very moment. It’d be better not to be a fiance than to be the bothering partner no person wants.
–Have a life of your own while being part of a couple. Some gals find a dude and then want to spend absolutely all of their time with him. Wow, what a drag. While it’s OK to enjoy hanging out with the man in your life, you must have a little time away, too, if only to have anything to talk about when you do meet up again.
–Understand he’ll need some space. And when you give it to him, don’t keep texting him or he’ll think you’re stalking him. It’s terribly hard for most blokes to get enthusiastic about the goings-on on your favorite soap or the latest fashion trend. Try to talk about topics that are of some interest to the both of you and occasionally shut up and allow him to talk, too.
–Don’t push him to embrace everybody you love. Just because your man has picked you for his sweetheart doesn’t mean he’s going to fall completely in love with your loved ones, too. As long as he’s polite to them, let him be. While relationships are built over time, there’s n o guarantee he’ll ever like your BFF. Much less your mom.
–Drop the mind games. It pays to always be honest with your man. Whoever told women that men are captivated by mind games wasn’t playing with a full deck.
These tips will help put you on the path to success in your love life. And if you’re preoccupied wondering how to be a good girlfriend, you need all the help you can get.
Well, Neal, that was … interesting. I agree wholeheartedly that honesty is the best policy. So I must confess I’ll still be turning to T.W. Jackson when I need a man’s perspective on how to get an ex back. But, hey, thanks for sharing your tips on being a good girlfriend.
